5 weeks! That’s how long my daughter endured silence from the paternal side of her family. No calls, no texts, no social media likes or comments….5 weeks of being ignored! And the night before the first day of school, the silence was broken! The night before she starts High School…in a new place….with no real friends yet….with nerves about the next day looming….and finally a text comes through after 9 pm! Was it from her dad? Oh no, of course not! It was from her cousin wanting to know what was going on and why she wasn’t attending her dads wedding this weekend.
My daughter explained her side of the story and told her she didn’t know when or where the wedding was. She had no clue prior to the text from her cousin when he was getting married. So instead of being understanding, her cousin told her she should apologize to the family and go to the wedding!!! WTF??? No seriously…..WHAT…THE….FUCK???? My daughter said he should be the one apologizing since he was the adult. In summary of the texts that went back and forth, she basically told my daughter she would regret not going, but my daughter declined her invitation to pick her up Saturday for the wedding.
Now, I’m sure she was put up to texting her so I really don’t blame her. When I was a young woman, I was naive and did believe almost everything my parents told me too! But timing is everything. Tomorrow will be stressful enough for my girl without her having this to deal with, but according to her cousin, maybe I should be more concerned about her fathers stress level as he’s SO stressed with this wedding!! NOT!!
Here’s the thing. I’ve contemplated many times why I married him. I knew how he was with women before me, and yet I still dated him. And when he asked me to marry him, I felt SO special, because after all, he NEVER married the OTHER women! (sarcastic) I quickly found out I was NOT special or lucky, but oh so unlucky! Lesson learned. Then he married again. I often wondered how she could’ve overlooked what he had done to me. The cheating, the lying, the crazy mistress he kept screwing after she stabbed me….I found out the story was twisted, but I only found out after he cheated on his 2nd wife too!!
So my question tonight is simple. If you are the potential 3rd wife of a man with his history. Even if he lies about me and denies any part of the affair with my attacker, he can’t deny his affair and cheating on his 2nd wife, because the potential 3rd wife was his mistress!! So…Miss almost 3rd wife….you were his mistress….you won….broke up his marriage to his second wife. I’m sure you think you are SO special, right? Can you explain how a man can walk away from his ONLY child without a second thought? His own flesh and blood that he helped create….he cut ties with her because she pissed him off!!! So, if he can do THAT to a CHILD that is his own, what in the hell do you think he can and will do to you and your children???
I may have been SO stupid when I was in love with him, but I can tell you this! If he had a child, and he refused this child for any reason whatsoever, there would be NO relationship, much less a wedding! Any man that willingly blocks a child from calling them and texting them has a heart of ice. He has blocked off his emotions so he can’t feel love! If I were you, I would run the other way as fast as you can! If not, if you are so determined to tie the knot, keep your finances separate. Make him sign a prenup! Don’t buy a house in both of your names! You, my dear, are his one way ticket to an easy retirement! Florida is a 50/50 state. Do your homework before you say “I do”
And let’s talk about those vows for a moment, shall we?
“For better or worse” –I hope you or your kids don’t get sick, he doesn’t “like” hospitals…ask his mommy! He will leave any chance he gets and complain the entire time he’s there, regardless of how serious the situation is. Even if it is for his own child.
“For richer or poorer” –As long as you keep making money, he will keep saving his!
“In sickness and in health”–“Not only does he not “do” hospitals, but even pregnancy freaks him out!
“Love and cherish you”—you and anyone else who strokes his ego!
I am assuming you are blinded by love temporarily. And, if I’m wrong, then you must be just as ice cold as he is, because no woman, much less mother would allow a man she claims to love start a life with her knowing he has cut ties with his only child! And if that’s the case, then I wish both of you a life full of nothing but the best hell has to offer!! F**K you both!