My ex-husband got married today. It’s his 3rd wife. I suppose I should feel some sort of way, but I just don’t. At this point it’s almost comical. And before my critics go on their rant blasting me to God and everyone, YES, I’ve been married four times, BUT I am a widow, a domestic violence survivor, and was lucky enough to make it out of my 3rd marriage from above mentioned adulterous husband with MOST of my self esteem intact! Thank God for my amazing fourth husband of almost 10 years who continues to lick my battle wounds of relationships past! So go on critics….speak your lies….try to make yourselves relevant…who gives a crap, my blog is not intended for you anyway!
So, where was I? The ex….yea, so he got married….again! (YAWN) If I was a betting woman, I would say this won’t be the last! He will be bored in 2 years and those blue eyes will wander….just a matter of time.
I gotta give this one props though. You see, back when we were married, his mistress was SO important to him. He left his family for her. Almost failed his Engineer test because of her. He put his job on the line by lying for the stupid bitch. But when push came to shove, the injunction I held against her for stabbing me allowed me also to have our divorce papers include no contact between his mistress and our daughter….EVER! Well, apparently, mistress number one wasn’t nearly as important to him as she thought she was. That was the end of their relationship. I was told he would NEVER give up his child for a woman!
Fast forward 11 years later. Mistress number two, who today became wife number 3, must’ve been WAY better than mistress number 1! The same man who couldn’t imagine giving up his daughter for a woman has now turned his back on his only child! And why? Because parenting is hard. Because his daughter is holding him accountable for his actions. Because his daughter threatened the relationship apparently more important than his own flesh and blood! And what was this threat?? The threat of the truth! He didn’t want his future wife to know the truth. The truth about his past that could change the way she saw him and their relationship.
Prior to our marriage, my ex told me his father said to him, make sure this is what you want…marriage is a one time thing!! His father is a man of God….a Deacon in the church. But yet this man has stood up two more times before God and other witnesses and allowed his son to stand before God and his peers and lie! He has stood by and allowed him to speak vows of untruth, and continues to support him time and time again. And for 6 weeks prior to the wedding today, not one word from the paternal grandparents. My daughter has been cut off from the entire family. She has been outcast because she had the nerve to speak the truth and hold her father accountable for his actions. These people that stand before God every week in church and proclaim to be holy! The Devil was once an Angel. Christianity should begin at home. If you don’t practice true Christianity within your own family, how can you preach it to others within the church walls??
So, while I have no emotions regarding the marriage, I do have emotions regarding my daughter. I can’t change who her family is, I can only help her cope with what she was given. She is angry, and YES SHE HAS ISSUES THANKS TO THAT FAMILY, but I will do everything in my power to let her know it’s not her fault! It’s his loss, she’s a great kid! She’s extremely bright, sassy, smart-mouthed, hard-headed, stubborn, and relentless…and yes, she gets ALL of that from ME!! BUT, that coldness that she uses to cut those she pissed at, yea, she gets THAT from the paternal side…enjoy it!