We Have Something in Common…Our Husbands Mistress

Every decision we make in life affects those around us as well.  The impact can be big or small, it can be life changing or life ending, or it can just simply bring two people who were once strangers together, and make them instant friends!

A couple of years after my attack, I got married to my current husband Chris! He is literally everything I needed him to be and more. I have been accused of sleeping with him and having an affair during the time my ex husband started his affair, but once again, I have proof otherwise. He is in the Navy and was deployed during this timeframe! Just another way for people to make excuses for those who nearly destroyed my life! Anyway, I met my husband Chris 3 months after I was stabbed and 2 weeks before my reconstructive surgery. It was a bad time for me as one can imagine. The furthest thing from my mind was meeting my future husband, but God has a funny way of giving you just what you need in your darkest hour! He’s 9 years younger than me and I jokingly tell him he was just supposed to be a distraction, but he just never went away! I knew he was a keeper after the reconstructive surgery, which he insisted on being there for! I woke up in recovery, my face was swollen and I looked like crap. He held my hand, looked down at me and said “You are so beautiful!”  Of course I know he was lying about my physical appearance, but I’ve since learned he fell in love with ALL of me, not just what you see on the outside!

One night shortly after we were married I was getting ready for bed and Chris was in the shower. My phone rang and I answered it. A woman asked me if I was Kenna-Joy Treadwell. Of course I paused because I was remarried. I asked who she was and what she wanted. She said “Do you know (attacker)?” I yelled at her and hung up the phone! I immediately started shaking and crying! The reaction to hearing “her” name was so intense, so raw….it felt like the attack had just happened all over again! I ran into the bathroom and was comforted by my husband immediately! The phone rang again….I swear my heart felt like it stopped! Why were they calling me? Why wouldn’t they just leave me alone and let me live my life?

This wasn’t the first phone call I had received, but it was definitely the first time the same person called twice. For a while the blocked calls came frequently. They would always involve telling me about one of my attackers violent blow ups while on the job. Whether it was her spitting on a patient or hitting a coworker, it seemed like she always went unpunished. The callers never identified themselves but would always say they knew what she was capable of. They always upset me because I felt helpless. She was still violent and there was nothing that was going to change who she was!

But this call was different. As soon as I answered the second time, I heard it in her voice….the same desperation I had heard in my own voice when I was going through my separation and divorce! Then she revealed who she was. “My husband is having an affair with (attacker) too! I just took a deep breath and said “Stay away from her…she’s dangerous!”

I sat down on my bed and what began as a conversation ended up as a friendship! She was going through the same thing I had gone through a few years before. Her husband was also a firefighter and worked with my attacker. He was her superior. Both parties involved were still married to other people when their affair started. Is this not frowned upon at all? How can people who are supposed to be working continually use their time to engage in extramarital affairs and this be alright with their employer! I guess the fact they work 24 hour shifts together creates a perfect environment for rampant cheating! Tax payers money hard at work! The fact that she was sleeping with a superior should’ve had both of them reprimanded at the very least but once again, she is above the law!

Our situations were similar in many ways. She was making the wife distraught with her negative comments. Her goal was to end the marriage. There were secret rendezvous and vacations. One rendezvous in particular, the wife was able to follow them to a hotel where she ended up being injured by a moving vehicle where her husband and his mistress were occupants. Luckily the injuries were mild, but still no repercussions.

I instantly felt a connection with her, of course. I’m not sure how long we spoke that evening, but we eventually made plans to meet in person. My first thought when I saw her was what in the hell was her husband thinking! Judy was a beautiful woman and as I sat down and talked to her I learned of her inner beauty! She is a true Christian. She spoke often of her faith during our conversation. Over the next few months we spoke frequently. One day she called to tell me my attacker was sorry for what she had done and wanted forgiveness! My first response was what in the hell are you talking about? They had spoken, her husband and his mistress were broken up. She apologized to Judy for what she had done and like any Christian, she opened her heart and forgave her.

Then, she dropped a bomb on me! Judy said, “She’s sorry for what she did to you that night too! She said she wished it never happened! You should really forgive her. She’s accepted Christ into her heart and is asking for forgiveness!”

My mouth hung open as I processed the information I had just been given! I couldn’t believe my ears. I am not a person that goes to church like I should, but I am a Christian and I believe in forgiveness with all of my heart! So why was I having such a hard time opening my mouth and saying the words “I forgive you”?

Then it came to me….to be forgiven, you must first be sorry for what you’ve done. You must be remorseful, you must be shameful for the act you carried out, you must feel empathy for your victim and you must be willing to accept the punishment for your actions! So my response was this….”If she is really sorry for what she did and wants forgiveness, tell her to go down to the Sheriffs Office and tell them exactly what she did! Tell them the truth….admit she stabbed me!” I told Judy I knew she was just after something…probably just trying to get information of some sort from her!

It was a while before I heard from Judy again. When I did, she admitted that the mistress was only using her to get information about her husband during their breakup! This woman had no boundaries she will not cross in order to get what she wants! Using Christianity as a ploy to get information because she knew the level of dedication of Judy’s faith is so low! But then again, why should I be surprised!

Judy and I remain friends bonded by a heartless mistress who tried to destroy both of our lives! She is still just as pretty as the day we met, inside and out! She has been a voice for me many times when I wasn’t around to dispute lies! She put me in touch with people to try and put a stop to the lack of justice received! I am not happy with the circumstances in which we first met, but I can’t imagine being on this journey alone without my sidekick!

The “mistress” ended up married to Judy’s husband. I often wonder which one will cheat first! I wouldn’t be surprised if it were him….you can only be fake so long before your inner ugliness shines bright, and age hasn’t been her friend either! Maybe that will be the Karma I’ve been waiting on….A little justice I call “a dose of your own medicine!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

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