And That’s The Truth

I’ve been debating for a while as to whether to write about this topic in further detail. I’ve been in a mental, emotional battle with myself as to whether I should allow myself to dive deep within myself, pull out the raw emotions, and just let them out for anyone and everyone to judge me, including the cowards hiding behind fake profiles. Then, as if I needed a sign, it was staring me in the face! A bright neon sign….blinking…beckoning me to sit down at my laptop and just have it out with my past! I figured if my past continues to bring itself into my present, then why not give it what it wants…the attention it so very much craves!

I’ve touched on this subject quite a few times in previous blogs. My friends and family know the story inside and out. They’ve seen the pictures, they’ve seen the court documents, they’ve held me through the tears, and helped me through my darkest times. But I want to reach out to those who don’t know. Or to those who THINK they know, but they really have no clue. I want to reach out the non-believers. To the ones who think I somehow deserved what happened to me. I would like those people to seriously read with an open mind, and ask yourself at the end of this blog, if I am telling the truth, how should this individual still be walking around among the free? And to those who may wonder “Well how do we know you are telling the truth?” First and foremost, use common sense. Second, I have either physical evidence or court documents to back up my story….no, not my story, my TRUTH! Just ask, I am more than willing to show it to you!

11 years ago, I was in the middle of a nasty separation. I was working as a Home Health Nurse, had four beautiful kids and was married to a Fireman. Right before Christmas, something felt off. We started marriage counseling. Within a week I knew he was having an affair. Call it a woman’s intuition or whatever you would like, but deep down in my gut, I knew he was cheating! He left a few days after Christmas. Within days, I confirmed the affair with numerous phone records, voice mail messages and several meetings between the two of them. Not surprising, she was also married. They worked together at the fire department. During the months of January and February, things were touch and go. We continued counseling, had a few family dinners and continued to have spousal relations. My husband continually denied the affair throughout this time. I received mixed signals as to where our lives were headed.

At the end of February, I had plans to go to an event with a dear friend. Although it was a police and firefighter event, when I spoke to my husband prior to accepting my friends invitation, he assured me he would not be there. That night, I went to the event, not knowing my life would change forever!

When we arrived, it didn’t take long for me to realize my husband was there. I ignored him and stayed with my friends. I spoke to a few of his friends in passing throughout the night. At the end of the event, our group went our separate ways. My friend, her boyfriend and I walked to my car. I heard my husband yell “whore” to me from behind as I entered the car. So I got out, appalled at his accusations, especially since it was he that had been unfaithful!

As we were arguing, his mistress came from behind him with her arm raised. Before I had a chance to react, I was out. I woke up on the ground with her standing over me, striking me repeatedly with an object. I tried kicking her to get her off of me, but I felt the object hit my butt so I grabbed her hair to pull her down on top of me. I remember hearing her grunt as she continually jabbed the object into my torso. I felt her being pulled off of me. I reached over to my husband who was standing to my left side. I grabbed his leg and begged for help. His response was “Get the Fuck off of me!” And just like that, he left with her. The rest is pretty much a blur. I was taken to the hospital via ambulance where I received over 75 sutures to the face and chest. I had multiple abrasions to my abdomen, but by the grace of God, I chose to wear my black leather jacket that night! I fully believe it saved my life.

No arrest was made. They informed me it was a case of he said, she said! My husband refused to tell the truth. He said I attacked her. Her story was I was on top of her, choking her, she reached over and grabbed a bottle off of the ground and started hitting me in self defense.  So here’s your chance to believe her side over mine….but let’s look at some facts before you are quick to judge.

I met with the officer on scene and he gave me her statement and explained since “I was the aggressor”, she wouldn’t be arrested. I then asked him was she covered in blood? He said no, just on her hands. This is where the common sense comes in….how could there be NO blood on her if I were on top of her when she stabbed me in self defense? Gravity would’ve covered her in my blood! Another point which you will be able to act out yourself after I post the pictures. How is it possible for her to slash me from the right upper chest down to the left lower chest with one motion if my hands were around her neck choking her? My arms would’ve been blocking the motion needed to cause those injuries. The rookie officer apologized to me after our conversation. I realize there were superior officers in charge of what took place that night and the choice to not make an arrest. I also realize with her working for the same city in which the attack occurred, I would never receive justice. I met one road block after another.

This is just the beginning of the truth….emotionally I must take a break. It’s hard reliving this painful event, but the truth deserves to be heard. Stay tuned folks….there’s a whole lot of crazy left to explore! (If you are squeamish, look away now)

This picture shows the blood pooled at my neck, proving I was on my back, not choking her

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This one caused nerve damage and has left the left side of my jaw numb.

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31 thoughts on “And That’s The Truth

  1. I’m speechless, and so incredibly sorry for what you have been through. Betrayed by your husband, and then by our justice system. You are a strong and brave person. I hope you are healing, inside and out. HUGS.

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    1. Unfortunately I didn’t have the best experience with the justice system. I try so hard not to let that experience tarnish the way I look at our system, but the system is definitely flawed! Thanks for reading!!

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  2. I have always known how very strong and brave you are. This just reinforces that. You are an amazing women and mother. I am so very sorry for what you had to go through and still go through. I hope you know how much we love and believe in you! Hugs from Florida:)

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  3. I don’t know you but I do remember the name Kenna-Joy from when my kids were in high school. I can’t get back to the post I saw on FB for some reason but I want to tell you how very very sorry I am for what has happened to you. We’re you a Thrift before you were married? Or did a Thrift allow this to happen to you. I pray nothing happens to you for putting this out for everyone to see but you are very brave to do this. I’ll be praying for you and I’ll not lose the post again next time so I can respond right there on FB. No one deserves this kind of treatment but talking openly can help with emotional scars. Praying for you

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  4. Kenna-Joy I knew you when you were just a little bitty thing, You and my son are just days apart in age. Your mom told me your story a couple of years ago, after they moved back to Hobart. I am still in shock that this precious little girl that is now a beautiful woman had to go thru such an awful event. I am a firm believer in that sooner or later what goes around comes around. Hold your head high and show them what you are made of. You are Joes and Marilyns daughter, you have what it takes to get thru this.

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    1. Thank you so much!! I most definitely inherited strength from my parents! And let’s not forget, growing up with two older brothers helped me to never take crap from anyone, even if it does just about kill you! Haha!

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  5. You are one strong woman, I went thru something similar with my ex , only it was him beating me because I caught him with another woman, thank god I found the man I’m married to now(25) years. The kicker is they both are named Ray, he asked me not to judge him by his name, I’m glad I didn’t. Good luck.

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    1. I was lucky enough to find a man strong enough to handle all my insecurities! Trust me, this has been a long road for my husband as well. There are times when he pays for my ex-husbands choices! I hate it, but it is a part of who I am. I am sure you can understand what I mean!! I am so happy you found a great man to love you and provide you with a stable, healthy relationship! Your man must be pretty special as well! 🙂

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  6. Continue being strong. The bigger criminals are the those that chose to look the other way, the opposite way of justice. Shameful politics. You should remain factual, continue to tell your story. Tell it as often as you can. Let karma do the rest. This story deserves to be told, mostly for the deceitful practices that robbed you of Justice. Rising above them is just the start! Keep going!

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    1. Thank you! You hit the nail on the head! Shameful politics is what kept this person from paying for what she did. There were many lies and cover ups along the way…hopefully my blog will shine a light on those in hiding!

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  7. Kenna-Joy you’re a very strong, brave and beautiful woman. I know it took everything you had to keep all this bottled up inside. No one ever deserves anything like you have had to endure. I commend you in sharing your story with us. It might help others who may have dealt with similar issues, to start their own healing process. I hope you can find peace and it can help with your healing. Maybe a little justice as well!

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    1. Thanks Bonnie! That’s my prayer…to be able to help others going through similar situations. This road has been long and hard. I’ve kept my mouth shut at times when I wanted to shout it from the rooftops! Finally, I realized the only people I was protecting by hiding the truth, were the ones responsible for putting me in that situation to begin with!
      This is all part of the healing process….letting all my emotions out there for the world to see! I didn’t create this situation myself, so why should I have to live with the burden and demons they caused! Thanks again for your support!

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  8. Thanks for sharing – I think getting it “out” will be a healing process for you and at the same time may save other lives. I will share this as I know a couple of women in situations that could easily turn like that for them. You may not ever see it but you sharing this will save lives. You are stronger than you will ever realize. Much love to you and I will keep you in my prayers.

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    1. Thanks you so much! That was my intention, to help others in addition to myself! It’s so easy to overlook how incredibly bad affairs can go….hopefully some men will read this as well and think twice before betraying their wife!

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  9. I don’t know you & you don’t know me, but, you are very brave to be not only willing to tell your side of the story but trying to get justice served as well. I hope both of the cheaters get what they deserve! I’m a southern woman & I very much believe in Karma.

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    1. Thank you! I’ve been waiting on the Karma train for a while, but I know it’s only a matter of time before it stops at the right place! You can’t hide an ugly heart forever….eventually everyone will see right through to your soul!

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  10. Kenna Joy, you are tough. You have an amazing family and wonderful parents. I admire your strength and character. But, be careful. Sounds as though this sicko is still on the move. I am in your corner anytime needed.

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  11. Kenna-Joy, I haven’t been thru that but have just got out of a four year relationship that was full of physical and emotional abuse. I admire you for sharing your story. I believe your story will help others, as one day, when I’m ready, mine will too.

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    1. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through as well! Abuse of any kind destroys you little by little! I’m glad you found your way out! When you’re ready, I would love to hear your story. I’ve learned during this journey a lot of others share similar experiences! I hope one day you can find comfort from your past! ❤️❤️

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  12. Where were your friends, witnesses. Why did no onecome forward. I would have. Sorry these cos today are just so stupid and lazy.

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    1. They did tell the truth as well as an unbiased officer from another county that witnessed the entire attack, then stayed with me until the cops arrived. When my husband returned to the scene with my attacker, the cop SSI “There is the woman who attacked her, arrest her!” Instead, they threatened to arrest him!! Complaints were filed but nothing came of it! The States attorney was aware of the unbiased witness. I spoke to Harry Shorestein myself and he said, “her friends say you were the aggressor, your friends say she was. Conflicting details so we will not prosecute because we can’t prove it!” There is a newspaper article where he is quoted saying basically the same thing he said to me! I’m sure if it were me that stabbed her, I would STILL be sitting in prison!

      Let me add…no evidence was collected, beer bottle was left on the ground, pics weren’t taken until several days later when I filed a complaint, the 911 call made by them wasn’t retrieved, video tapes from public arena wasn’t collected…..you tell me if that sounds like they did their due diligence!

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  13. Stay strong the truth will come out and she and the police that didn’t do there job will get what is coming to them Karma is a bitch. So sorry that you had to go though such an awful attack.

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